When you think about Lifestyle Design, what comes to mind? Do you think of Tim Ferriss hacking his way to a 4-hour work week? Or the traveling family that’s leaving everything behind to see the world?
Chances are, whatever you are envisioning is the opposite of your current reality. That’s human nature. Sadly, we are programmed to think the grass is greener on the other side, when it’s usually just a different shade of the same thing.
In reality, Tim Ferriss works his butt off. He is an angel investor, startup mentor, author, and blogger. He just doesn’t call that stuff work and hires people to take care of the mundane things like email. And that traveling family? It gets lonely on the road when you are constantly on the move. Plus, traveling full time is a lot of work too. Remember all the planning you did for your last week-long vacation? Multiply that by every week of your life and you can see why it’s not all relaxing on the beach.
Now, I’m not saying you shouldn’t hack your life or travel the world. Quite the opposite really. However, you need to think long and hard about what really makes you and your family happy.
So, what is lifestyle design?
Lifestyle design should be about crafting the life you want, love, desire and crave. Not someone else’s ideal. It is very personal to each individual and family. If you have children then school, sports and extracurricular activities come into play. If you are the breadwinner, you probably can’t just up and quit your job tomorrow without suffering some major consequences.
That begs the question…what are you to do?
It’s best to start small. Start with baby steps. First, you need to identify what your ideal lifestyle looks like to you. I recommend carving out some quiet time everyday to ponder the life you want. There are some serious questions you need to ask yourself, but they cannot be rushed or answered in haste. If you force it, you will most likely just be swinging that pendulum trying to find happiness on the other side of the scale. Let me just tell you now that it won’t work long term.
After you are comfortable sitting with yourself in silence for a few minutes everyday (it will be really awkward at first) you should begin asking yourself these questions.
Ponder these questions for a while. Talk with your significant other or family about what really makes you happy and what you want out of life (for yourself and your family unit). Is everyone on board? What do they want from life and how would they design their best lifestyle. Once you have a clear picture of where you want to go, then you can start mapping out the best way to get there.
Things will not change overnight, but we’re working on building a life of intention. It’s about crafting that absolutely special life that works best for you and your family while peeling away the layers of what you should be doing according to everyone else. Lifestyle design needs to focus on what makes you happy and fulfilled – that’s the secret to success.
What do you think? I’d love to hear your perspective in the comments below.